Transitions
Transitions are so hard after trauma,
Your body, already on hypervigilance from all
that you’ve endured
Takes the change as a sign that, once again,
You are about to suffer and lose everything you
hold dear,
One small change in routine
Can end up a nightmare
As your body kicks you into flight or flight mode
And the transition becomes a trigger
You try to stay afloat,
Telling yourself that everything will be okay and
that after the transition will come some sense of stability,
You rehearse to yourself what it will be like
after the transition,
Remind yourself that you’re not really losing
everything,
Things are just changing,
You think that if your mind has a stable place to
land, your body will follow,
But this year even if that were the case,
There is no stability in front of you,
And it’s not like that’s the case anyway,
Because it takes a long time to teach your body
that it is safe
After it is has been through so much suffering
At the beginning of the times of transition,
Your body felt equal parts terror and hope,
And it took many losses, many transitions, and
many disappointments
To finally convince it that
Things are never going back to normal
And this transition doesn’t mean that those who’ve
died will come back to life,
That those events that scarred you will never
have happened,
That the losses you’ve faced will be restored
And you can finally go home,
Now, you feel only the terror,
The uncertainty of what life will be like after
this transition
And all that might get lost in the process,
Especially if you cannot hold things together,
Especially if you cannot meet the demands that
will be placed upon you,
Especially if you cannot figure out the secret
magic of how not to lose things,
Which you try and try and try to discover even
though you’ve never been successful at it before,
As evidenced by all your many losses,
And now you’re exhausted before the work has even
begun,
So you’re even less likely to be successful at not
losing things
You want to be comforted,
To trust in the people, objects, routines, and
resources you have left to you,
But at this point so many have been lost that you
cannot be sure these others will not also fall away,
Especially during this time of transition
So you do not know how to be comforted,
And you weep and mourn for what was lost,
Unable to be comforted
Because they are no more
You hold on, for the transition must be endured,
And there is a part of you that knows that stagnation
is death and growth is part of life,
And transitions must be a part of growth,
You are weary, but you see the value in
continuing the journey,
So you keep pressing on even though it feels like
you cannot take another step,
For the world spins merrily onward
Even though it obviously ended,
And you don’t really get to take a break
Still at some point loss must end and building
must begin,
For it doesn’t make sense to endure infinite
destruction if we live in an infinite creation,
And so you hope that one day this will be over,
Transitions will one day be joyful evidence of
increase,
And you can finally rest.
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